6 foundational lessons learned from 4+ Years of high school ministry

It was crazy for me last night watching the election coverage and realizing that 4 years ago I was still out of college!  I feel like the time is flying and over the past few weeks I have been doing a lot of thinking/reflecting on ministry and the growing passion and desire I have for my church, as well as all churches to be effectively reaching young people and impacting lives for the sake of Christ!  Is many ways this has been what I have dedicated the last 7 years (4.5 as a youth pastor and 2.5 as an intern/volunteer) of my life to and I wanted to share some of the foundational lessons that I have learned and things that I believe to be true when it comes to doing youth ministry well and making an impact.  I have been part of 2 church plants in states that have both won and lost the civil war, and many times in spite of myself God has blessed these churches and the youth ministries,  and I have been privileged to see awesome fruit from both ministries which is on-going.  So in an attempt to be helpful here are 6 big lessons that I have learned over the past 4+ years

1. Always Remember Your Audience!

So, as part of my responsibilities as a pastor is that I not only teach for the high school ministry on a weekly basis but I also end up preaching to the whole church 15 times or so a year.  If I could take my sermon and give it to my high school group, or if I could give my high school message during the Sunday morning service I have failed miserably.  At youth group, preach to high schoolers!  engage them, talk like they talk, be funny, show how God's word is powerful, practical and apply's to them where they are right now!  Preach the gospel, show how Jesus is our hero in spite of our failings and gear your application to where they are struggling.  Stop parsing greek verbs and studying the end times and continually communicate how Christ is sufficient in their relationships, purity battle, friendships, home life, and future!  Study the gospels, study Christ, hit them where they are at, and care about the craft of communicating.  If your grandma or your old Bible professor would love your message at youth group... you probably haven't done your job!

2. Young Leaders are Vital to Effective Youth Ministry

Some people will disagree with this and be offended, but I strongly believe that when it comes to relating to and working with high schoolers, your effectiveness window begins to slam shut when you hit the age of 30-35.  Now there are exceptions to the rule.  I have seen 40 year old men and women relate wonderfully to kids and build great youth groups but they have an extraordinary gift and are not the norm by a long shot!  Kids don't want to sit around a small group and open up about what they are struggling with to someone who is their parents age.  Guys are way more likely to open up about their porn addiction to a 22 year leader who can relate with them than they are a 45 year old man who didn't grow up with the internet!  I am not saying it is right, I am just saying that it is a reality.

So here is what this means practically for my ministry.  First, I will not settle for immaturity in my leaders in order to keep have young leaders.  Our youth group right now has 11 leaders all ranging between 27 and 21 years old and I want the best young people in the church as leaders in our youth group.  My leaders are growing and maturing people who love Jesus and our students and are the best of the best and people that our students will want to be with and be like.  I expect a ton out of my leaders, hold them to a high standard, and allow them the freedom to lead without me looking over their shoulder!

Secondly this means that I routinely look at parents and tell them they can't be high school leaders.  Not the most fun conversation, but the culture I am building is worth having the occasional parent upset when they cant be involved.  By the way that anger usually subsides when they see their child growing in our youth group and the kid is always pumped not to have their parent there!

3. Student Leadership is a Failed Model

There seems to be a trend developing where youth pastors think it is a good idea to raise up student leaders to help lead the small group discussion time and be responsible over other students.  I know of churches where their whole leadership structure is student led.  That idea is about as good as the final season of The Office has been...horrible.  I have yet to meet a high school student who has the maturity and leadership ability to lead other students well in the context of small group time during youth group, and I have had a TON of great kids.  All high school students are still figuring what it means to be a consistent in all areas of their lives, they all have struggles, they all need accountability and encouragement and youth group needs to be a place where they are being led, fed by God's word, challenged, and encouraged.

When you place a student as a leader above his classmates often times the result is either pride which results in sin or the student leader feeling a crushing weight of having to lead others while not having the proper training, maturity, or ability to lead.  Either way everyone loses when you have students lead.  All students need leaders who can love on them and encourage them, don't settle for student leaders to make sure you have students invested in the ministry and don't leave.

I am not against students using their gifts!  We have students lead in worship, play in the band, paint, come up with games, pray,  ect. to bless our group, but I am not putting high schoolers in the discipleship role over other high schoolers...it doesn't work!

4. Building a Culture of Worship is Slow, Painful, and Incredibly Rewarding.

The positive part about being part of a church plant is that you start with a clean slate.  You don't have to clean up any messes left by past pastors and you get a great opportunity to set the direction of what you want your youth ministry to look like.  The negative is that you are starting from "Ground 0".  I guess the best way I can describe it is like buying a large piece of rural property hoping to one day build a city on that land.  There is a ton of time and work to get from point A to point B!

I can clearly remember having the conversations with Chris, our worship leader and faithful youth min sidekick a little over a year ago about forming a worship band with and for our students.  Our church was at the 150-200 stage our youth group was running anywhere from 10-12 students on a full night and it was like "is the band going to be bigger than the people they are leading?"  It was terrifying!  We live in a context that is extremely dead both emotionally and spiritually, meaning that expressive, engaged, heart-felt worship is not the norm and to build what we felt God was leading to build was daunting.  So we did it anyway, and the first month it was hard and borderline painful, then the second month we started seeing a small response, then we had winter camp and the Lord moved in a huge ways and students were actually looking forward to worship!  More students started coming which created more of a comfortable atmosphere and slowly this thing started to take shape!

Now, 15 months later, by God's grace we are seeing 50-60 students consistently passionate about worship, excited to hear from God's word and getting after following Christ!  Our space is packed out kids are almost literally on top of each other because we are so crowded and nobody complains, nobody cares because they are excited about Jesus and want to get after worship, and get after being more in love with their savior and living that out.

We are by no means the finished product and definitely can continue to grow in this but we have seen HUGE transformation in the heart of our kids and it has been my greatest joy in ministry!  But it didn't come without pain, without patience, without a lot of self doubt, and a lot of perseverance.  It takes a lot of sweat and hard work to make something that matters!

5. Care About Creativity

If I am honest this is my biggest challenge.  I am not a creative type, actually if I have a creative bone in my body I haven't found it yet, so this is the area in ministry that I have to be putting the most effort towards and constantly be checking myself on.  The reason creativity matters is because creativity not only communicates something in a different, thought provoking way, but creativity also communicates that you care deeply about the message!

Too many youth pastors get stuck in the rut of snack, game, 1 awkward song, Bible study, prayer, leave.  And even though its unintentional, routine and a lack of creativity produces boredom and indifference.

And it is for that reason that we constantly move around the worship set, change how we do small groups for a night, I'll teach by candlelight, we will do dramatic readings, we will move around who leads worship, we make a concerted effort to be creative and to stay true to one of our youth ministry pillars which is to be "fresh".  Creativity takes more effort and more risk and the end goal is not to be cool or hip but to communicate that Jesus matters, he is fresh, and we care about engaging our students!

6. No Regrets

This summer/fall in my spare time I devoured a show on Netflix called "Friday Night Lights."  And in the show Coach Eric Taylor's famous pre-game tagline before his players would take the field was "Clear Eyes. Full Hearts. Can't Lose."  Every time I heard that line my heart resonated with the message that if you give everything you have each week for the glory Christ, if you pour yourself out for your students in love showing them Jesus, you win!  And because I believe that I challenge my leaders to not hold back!  


Here's what I mean, there will be times in youth ministry when you are in a one on one conversation with a student and you feel the Spirit moving the conversation in that moment you don't want to leave thinking "I wish I would have asked this", or "I wish I would have pressed in more on that."

Last winter during our winter camp there was a student who was unsaved and I could sense the Lord was working on his heart and breaking down walls and after one of the sessions he and I went at it in a verbal tug of war for 45 min where he was laying out his doubts and fears and I was responding with the gospel, I knew in my heart I could not quit and the result was one of the sweetest salvation moments I have experienced.  We have limited times with our students and we do not know what tomorrow brings so each Sunday night, each event, the goal is to leave spent and exhausted pursing our students for the glory of God!  Clear Eyes. Full Hearts. Cant Lose! (I just wanted to say that again!)


Anyways, this is what we have seen and what we have learned and I hope this has been helpful/challenging, would love to hear your thoughts!

Gospel Motivations Fear or Love PT 1 of 3

So I recently heard a sermon by one of my favorite preachers, Matt Chandler where he asks the question: what is our motivation in regards to our Christian walk, is it fear or love?  (you can listen to the sermon here and if you have an hour it is SO worth your time!)  The reason it was so powerful for me is that it helped me solidify where exactly I have come from in my own personal journey with God and in many ways why I am so passionate about preaching and proclaiming the gospel specifically where God has called me in West Michigan.  

So over the next 3 days I hope to look at this idea of fear vs. love examining how it has played out in my life, how it manifests itself in our lives now, and hopefully encouraging you in Christ along the way!

Galatians 5:1 "For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery."

I grew up in a Christian home, to a family with great Christian heritage, in a church that loved God's Word, in Christian School, and I was not free.

Here's what I mean, I grew up viewing the gospel as "If you want to go to heaven you need to ask Jesus into your heart, and not get God angry at too you so that he will love you."  There were a few different factors that led to this mindset.  Some of it had to do with some legalistic tendencies and interactions at my church, my school being more focused on morality than Jesus, but the main reason I believed this (by an overwhelming majority) was simply my immaturity and sinful pride desiring to make my salvation more about me than about Jesus.

Here is what this (false) view of the gospel led to in my life: I believed that my salvation was determined by Jesus + reading/memorizing the bible enough, listening/not listening to certain types of music, behaving a certain way, not watching certain movies or TV shows (Simpsons), being morally pure, not lying, ect.  In short the goal of the Christian life was to not anger God too much, even though I didn't know how much that was, so God could love me and I could go to Heaven.  I was a slave to morality (the law) and in my mind salvation was hanging in the balance... it was terrifying!

Here's the problem: there is NO FREEDOM in that belief system and that's not even the gospel!

And what breaks my heart is that mentality was shared by all my friends both in church and in school, I was by no means alone in this slavery. (I know this will sound familiar to many of you!)  Almost all of my friends grew up with the belief that basically God was an angry dad that we had to please in order for him to love us.  And what happened in my life is that the majority of my friends in high school came to the realization that "that dad sucks" and isn't worth following or loving and many abandoned the faith and ran to other idols to varying degrees.

The major negative influence my false gospel had on me was un-relenting doubt regarding my own salvation.  Was I good enough?  Had I sinned too much?  Could God love me?  And rather to running to God in repentance I carried guilt, shame, fear, and crippling doubt.

I carried this with me through most of my college years, I attended Moody Bible Institute which is a great school but does carry some legalistic and fundamentalist baggage which did not make things clearer for me.  And even though I was training for ministry I felt like I was serving a God that loved my when I was holding up my end of the bargain and I was under His wrath when I wasn't.

If I am honest, the turning point in my life came while living in Orlando working as a youth pastor at Harvest Orlando that through a lot of study, reading, and listening to sermons from guys like Driscoll and Chandler that the Holy Spirit opened my eyes to the fact I was covered by Christ's perfect righteousness both at my best and at my worst moments.  That despite my sin and failings God's love was unchanging and unceasing for me and that the star of the gospel is Christ and what he accomplished FOR me rather than myself and "how I'm doing at the moment."

This shift for me produced 2 huge outcomes:

First was that I was no longer motivated by fear but by love!  My motivation to please God and to live righteously now has nothing to do with fear of hell or condemnation but I rest assured that God loves me that I am his adopted child and the big difference is now rather than working for love and affection from God I can rest in him and serve him out of joy and mutual love.  Understanding this made all the difference in the world!  I now have a joy I had never experienced before!

Secondly there is a fire and passion to share God's love and the life transforming power of the gospel with others.  The gospel is not merely the doorway into the Christian life but it is the sustaining force and power behind our lives.  Our joy, security, hope, love, and life is all rooted in the Gospel and who we are to God through Christ.  This is my passion and I am grateful for the opportunities I have at Harvest Spring Lake to proclaim this message of hope!

Tomorrow the plan is to look at what it means to be motivated by fear and Tuesday we will look at what how our love for God and his love for out should play out in our lives!

you are loved,

Cal

Unleashing God's Power in Our Lives

So last weekend I was at Harvest Winter Camp with my high school group (if you want to read my thoughts on the weekend check out the previous post).  And the biggest issue almost all of my students were/are struggling with is the idea that:

 "I love Jesus and understand I need him as my saviour, but I don't feel close to God and because of that I am doubting if I am even saved." 

 I bet almost all of us have resonated with these feelings before and often times there are sin issues and stuff we need to deal with in our own lives that when left un-dealt with cause these doubts.  But what I want to focus on today is the question: "How do I unleash God's power in my life?"  

When you read the New Testament, especially the book of Acts, you see over and over again God taking normal, sinful, broken people and do incredible things through them, but it never happened on accident!  God's power is not unleashed in our lives while we sit passively on the sidelines.  And as I pray, study, and mature, I am becoming more and more convinced that we will not experience God's power in our lives until we make the commitment to give ourselves completely to him.

Here's what I mean... When you think of someone who God unleashed his power on, the Apostle Paul leads the list, and what I can't get out of my mind is the phrase he wrote to the Corinthian church in 2 Corinthians 2:2

"For I decided to know nothing among you except Jesus Christ and him crucified. And I was with you in weakness and in fear and much trembling, and my speech and my message were not in plausible words of wisdom, but in demonstration of the Spirit and of power, so that your faith might not rest in the wisdom of men but in the power of God."

What is so amazing about this passage is Paul's unwavering motivation and desire to be about nothing other than Jesus.  And that, I believe is the key to living a life that is powered by God!  

So here is the life changing question(s)

What if we made Jesus our number 1 passion?

What if our desire to see people saved was greater than our fear of man?

What if we loved one another enough to get after sin and have difficult and helpful conversations?

What if we prayed like we actually believed Jesus was alive and was listening?

What if Jesus was more than our savior but also our king?

I believe lives would be saved, families restored, hearts would be on fire, communities would be transformed, and I believe that we would have the power to change the world!

You Are Loved!

Cal

6 Quick Reflections on Winter Camp

1. It is so important to get away and refresh yourself!  

I believe the reason that camp experiences are so powerful is because we rarely are able to take time from our busy lives and spend a large amount of time focused on Jesus and our relationship with our savior.  Over the weekend we spent upwards of 10-12 concentrated hours in worship, teaching, and small group discussion!  How often are we able to do that!  Life is tiring and easily wears us down and we need to take every opportunity to get away and be refreshed by God’s spirit when we get the opportunity!

2. I love my high school students!

 My group is cooler than yours!  Bragging aside, I am extremely blessed by the high school students I get to work with.  I have never had a group more unified, easy to get along with, and more for each other than with this group!  It is a miracle in itself that 21 kids from at least 7 different schools (not counting homeschoolers) could blend together and get along so well.  I genuinely believe that powerful friendships are forming and I am so pumped about that.  

I have also never been around a group so goofy/hipster/dorky (in a good way!) and there is never a time when we are together where I am not having an absolute blast with them!

3. I love my leaders!

My youth leaders are unbelievably Godly young people who love our students tirelessly and fearlessly.  I love that often times students approach my leaders before even myself when they need advice and encouragement.  That means we are doing things right and there are cool bonds of trust and love forming.  I wouldn’t trade my leaders for anyone!

4. I love being a part of Harvest Bible Fellowship!

This weekend would not have been possible if not for our association with Harvest Bible Fellowship.  The job they do at Camp Harvest is absolutely unmatched by anything in our area!  I am so thankful for their hospitality and kindness to us and I am looking with anticipation to continuing to grow a strong partnership with them in the future!  Thank you so much!

5. We have the power to change the world!

There will be much more on this later this week in another post but to put simply, I fully believe that when we fully buy in and submit ourselves to Christ our students, our church, we all have the power to have an unlimited impact on the lives around us.  However this only happens when we are willing to give our everything we have and pour ourselves out for our King!

6. God showed up and we will never be the same

Lives were saved, hearts were won, sin was revealed, commitments were made, students worshipped in spirit and truth (some for the first time!), bonds were forged, people were transformed, God showed up and we will never be the same!  Enough said!

Jesus > Everything!

Cal

Why I Struggle to Engage Myself in Politics

I feel like this one needs to start with a disclaimer so here it is: This is my opinion on where I am at regarding the political arena after years of prayer and thoughtful consideration.  This is by no means a statement claiming that you have to agree with me or that my way is best, and if politics are your passion it doesn't mean we cant be great friends and get along!


Ok, now that's behind us I just want to lay out a few reasons why I struggle to engage myself in the political hoopla as we enter the "crazy season" leading to us as a country voting on who will serve us in the office of President of the United States.


1.  I believe God is sovereign.  


Let me make myself clear, I will vote and I take my responsibility seriously, I am not saying "God's in control so therefore we can be lazy."  But what I am saying is that my faith is ultimately in God's sovereignty not some political candidate.  Proverbs 21:1 says "The king’s heart is a stream of water in the hand of the LORD; he turns it wherever he will."  I sleep really easy resting in this truth!


2. I Believe the System is Broken


The fact that in order to have a real shot at winning the presidential election you need to be from 1 of 2 parties points to the fact that we have a broken system.  We get 2 ideologies continually shoved down our throat and we are forced to choose one or the other if we want to really have our vote matter.  More options would be nice!


3. I am SOOO Out on People Being Jerks!


Why cant I watch people discuss the issues without name-calling, belittlement, and extreme arrogance?  When did watching a political discussion turn into a promotion for the WWE??  It is easy to make critical statements of someone you have never met to make a point, it is difficult to engage someone and make a difference in the life of somebody you know and care about.  I want to be about making a difference!


4. We are Called to Win People to Christ, Not Governments!


I am always uncomfortable defining myself by a political party but working in the church, I interact predominantly with Republicans and social conservatives and I have heard this argument made more than once "We are a Christian nation founded on Biblical principles and we need to return to our roots!" Here is my response: "Who in your life are you sharing the good news of Jesus with right now?"  If you want to play the "Christian nation" card and you are too selfish and too much of a coward to be sharing Jesus with others (THE MOST IMPORTANT NEWS IN THE WORLD), that is called being a hypocrite.  Jesus said very clearly in Matthew 28 to "go and make disciples" I don't believe he said "go and vote conservative."  Now, before you get angry please know that voting conservatively is not wrong at all and I would be pumped if a Godly Christian leader was voted in as president, but if you view your voting record as the test to your faithfulness of fulfilling the great commission, you are sorely mistaken! 


5. I am a Single-Issue Voter.


I am against baby-murder.  I will never vote for anyone who loves and supports baby-murder.  If I met a candidate who I agreed with on every issue exactly and he said to me "oh by the way I am totally for murdering babies" I would not vote for him!  I believe we will stand before God one day and give an account for how we stewarded what God has given to us, I will not be held accountable for our country's deficit, but I do believe I will be held accountable regarding whether or not I fought for the innocent and the helpless.  God's Word clearly says "do justly and love mercy."  And I COULD NEVER with a clear conscience, knowing Jesus and how he loved, vote for someone who was supportive of baby-murder.  And I have yet to hear a compelling counter-argument!


So maybe I am a simpleton and a boring voter...I am very comfortable with that!


PS.  Don't expect any sermons on "Who Christians Should Vote For" anytime soon from me! ;) 


you are loved,


Cal

When Were You Saved?

So, I had a huge "light bulb" moment this morning! 


 One of the greatest things about being a relatively new church plant is that you get to set the direction you want to go and get to determine what you want to be about as a church.  In the weeks and months leading up to the launching of Harvest Spring Lake, the staff and the leaders spent countless hours in discussion, prayer, and deliberation concerning what we believed our community needed to hear, what we wanted to communicate, and how that would manifest itself on a weekly basis


The result of this being that we are committed to continually proclaim and teach that the Gospel declares that we are saved not by our works, or by what we have done, or by how we dress,  or who we vote for, or what movies we watch, ect.  but we are saved by God's great love for us manifested most perfectly in the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus Christ, God's own Son, who took our sin on himself and paid the penalty we could never pay!  We are committed to proclaiming this good news in everything we do and fighting a real mentality where people place their faith in themselves rather than the work of Christ!


Here is where the light bulb moment comes in.... I was reading a few different blogs this morning and came across this quote by John Warwick Montgomery (awesome name!) 


"To the question, 'When were you saved?' we can answer with a hearty “2000 years ago, on a hill outside of Jerusalem”


After reading this I came to the conclusion that "no wonder people struggle with works based salvation when the language we use about our own conversion credits ourselves!"


Here's what I mean... How many times have you heard someone begin their testimony with "I gave my life to Christ when... or  "I was saved at this conference when I raised my hand or walked down the isle"


We tend to try and view our salvation story as if we were stranded at sea, being tossed by the waves, thrown around around by the currents, struggling to keep our head above water.  Hopeless and facing certain death at the last moment Christ comes in with the life raft which we are able to swim to and grab hold on leading to our salvation. 


This would be a cool picture of salvation, except for the fact that it's wrong...


The truth is passages like Ephesians 2:5 make it exceedingly clear that before God intervened we were already dead.  We did not grab a raft, we did not swim over to safety, we were dead! (Just to clarify, dead people cant really do anything)  God gave us life without any action, effort, or movement on our part.


You may be thinking right now "But I did pray the prayer, raise my hand, or walk down the isle" and that is awesome!  Praise God!  But that was not what saved you, that was a response to the saving faith God had already given you through grace.  See the difference?  Could you have prayed the prayer or walked the isle if God hadn't already miraculously worked in your heart, made you aware of your need for a savior and given a previously dead soul life?  No Way!


 I know the argument is technical, but it is really important!  Our "conversion moment" is not what saved us, we were called before the foundation of the world (Eph. 1:4), saved through the work of Christ on the cross, and given life through the work of the Holy Spirit in our lives (Jn 6:63-65)  All because of the unbelievable grace and love shown to us by God Himself!


So what does this mean?


1. When we understand this, it is impossible to not grow in our love for God and in our joy over what God has done for us.  The more we understand that we had NOTHING to do with our salvation and that DESPITE of our guilt, sin, and shame God would still love us and give us Jesus leads us to continually love him more deeply


2. We can show more grace and patience to others!  Often times the frustration we feel towards unbelievers in our lives is driven from the mentality "why don't they get it?"  We believe that they are in the open sea and just choosing not to grab the life-raft Jesus is offering.  And while I believe that we are all responsible for our sin and that it is the sin of the unbeliever that ultimately condemns them, we have to understand that without God moving and giving life unbelievers will remain dead in their sin.


Let me make this clear one more time: YOU DID NOT GRAB A LIFE RAFT, YOU WERE RAISED FROM THE DEAD!  And I hope you see the inherent pride in the statement "why don't you get it" as if you were saved because you got it.  


Instead we are free to be patient, show grace, and pray more fervently that God would work in a miraculous way in the lives of the people who don't know Him because when all is said and done...it's all about Jesus and what he did...not us!




-Cal

Why "Because the Bible Says So" is Lazy

I love God's Word (The Bible)!  I believe that it is true, that is has authority, that it has stood the test of time, and that one of the greatest acts of love in world history was God loving us enough to give us instruction that has been protected and preserved over centuries to bless and guide the church.

However, the Bible is not a math book, so we should stop treating it like one!  Here is what I mean:

In math 2 + 2 = 4.  The reason reason this is the case is because well...2 + 2 = 4.  It is known fact, it doesn't need to defend itself, it is what it is.

Here is where the tension occurs, many people try to govern morality using the Bible as a math book making this argument: "you should or shouldn't do something because thats what the Bible says."  That line of reasoning isn't wrong...but it is lazy and incomplete.

The truth is that the Bible was never intended to be a rule book providing lists of arbitrary laws that people must follow.  Instead, scripture is the true story of how God loved his people so much that in spite of their evil and rebellion he provided them with salvation.  Are there parts of the Bible that give specific instruction on how to live? Absolutely!  But they are there with a purpose and are given to us because God loves us and wants us to display wisdom, love one another, be safe, and ultimately become more like his son Jesus bringing Him glory!

That being said there is a better way to give instruction from scripture than "the Bible says so" method and here is what it looks like:


Example 1: High school boy admits to drinking and partying

Response 1 - "Stop partying because you are not old enough and the Bible says don't get drunk." (law-driven, lazy response)

Response 2 "The reason you shouldn't be engaging in those activities is because as a follower of Jesus who God has loved and saved, we have the ability and responsibility to model Jesus to others.
The reason we are told to flee drunkenness in the Bible is because drunkenness is both addictive, meaning it is easy for alcohol to replace Jesus in our hearts and we end up worshipping alcohol, but also drunkenness causes us to make decisions and act in a way that does not represent Jesus well and can lead us to make decisions that we will regret for the rest of our lives.

Drunkenness is a self-centered desire to feel a certain way, because Jesus loved use and and gave his life for us we should no longer be motivated by selfish desires but live in a way that model's Christ's love and grace to others, that will not happen when we are drunk!  You have been forgiven, and loved by God, therefore Jesus needs to be at the center of your decision making process, not abuse of alcohol!" (gospel driven response)

Example 2: Young woman (believer) enters a into a relationship with a man who is not a Christian.

Response 1: You need to break up with him because the Bible says you have to marry a Christian (law-driven, lazy response")

Response 2: "As a child of God, you are loved by God in a way that is impossible to even comprehend.  God has called you his daughter, has chosen you, pursued you, and made a way for you to be saved.  God also, because he loves you and you are his daughter, He cares deeply about who you marry.  Marriage was given to us by God to represent our relationship to Christ!  That is why the church is often referred as the bride of Christ in the New Testament.

The reason we are told not to marry non believers in scripture is not because God is a control freak, but because he loves you and wants to protect you.  As a believer in Christ, you are no longer ruled by sin and driven by selfishness, but now you have the desire to honor and glorify Christ by how you live.  The guy your dating doesn't share those desires, and without Christ he will continue to be motivated by selfish desires, he will not love and lead you in a way that models Jesus, he will not help you grow in your relationship with God, and he will pressure you to cross lines that you are uncomfortable with.  This will lead to sorrow, regret, and eventually loneliness, even though you are in a relationship!

God wants to protect you from this and now you can use this time to build your reliance on God  as you wait for God to provide a man for you to marry who will love you in a way that models God's perfect love for you." (gospel driven response)

In conclusion, it is the gospel and God's love for us that is the motivation for change and repentance (Rom. 2:4).  When we lean on the Bible as only the law or rules that we have to live by and we don't take the time to explain grace, and how the gospel changes everything, we are not necessarily wrong...but we are lazy and incomplete in our instruction.

I Said Goodbye to a Dear Friend Saturday Night

Last Saturday was an emotional evening for me.  I said goodbye to a dear friend, a friend who walked closely with me throughout the end of high school, all through college, was with me at my wedding, moved with me to Florida, moved back to Michigan with me, and was even there with me on the night Mary gave birth to our baby girls.  

I said goodbye to a friend whom I have shared my greatest victories and triumphs with, who has comforted me at my low points, and who has struggled with me when I have doubted and had tough questions with no answers.

Last Saturday night I said goodbye to the David Crowder Band at the Orbit Room in Grand Rapids.  The DCB has undoubtedly been the most important band in my life and I was one of many who felt wounded a few months ago when they announced they would be done as of next year.  

Much ink has been spilled on how the DCB has revolutionized worship music with their unique sound, look, and energy.  There is nothing I can say about that stuff that hasn't already been said much more fully than I am capable of.

However, I want to share the answer to the questions we ask when we lose or say goodbye to anyone we love:  What did I appreciate most about the DCB? And where do I go from here?

As I have reflected on what drew me to the DCB, more than music or sound what I appreciated about them as a band is that in a time where much Christian music is very shallow, self focused, and shy's away from difficult issues, Crowder embraced and examined the valleys and the dark areas we enter in our faith.  Doubt, frustration, fear, and even depression were laid out in their music and were not hidden from their listeners.  the DCB understood that the Christian life is not only mountain top experiences and rose pedals but that pain, suffering, and loneliness are real and our only hope in life's valleys is the message of the gospel.  That message and the transparency of the DCB is what drew me to them and it will be my lasting impression of them, and for that I am thankful.

So what's next?

I found it interesting that the DCB chose to tour with both Gungor and Chris August.  Both bands, specifically Gungor in many ways will have to carry weight of taking the torch from DCB.  Both bands were great and it was encouraging that there are new artists who are making beautiful, thoughtful, and inventive worship music.  Christian music needs bands like these that will push boundaries.

So while it was hard to say goodbye Saturday night, there is hope for the future, already excited to see Gungor play at Calvin College this spring!

Atheist Conventions, Hate Groups, and Hypocritical Christians

This morning I received an article from a friend who routinely emails me when he has read something that has challenged him or something that he thought may be helpful for fellow Christians to read.  In, fact he has helped contribute many articles to our church blog, you can check that out here, tons of great resources!


Anyways, the title of the article he sent me was "Waiting for Lightning to strike: A Wobbly Agnostic among the Atheists" by Carolyn Briggs.  It is the story of a woman who finds out the national Atheist convention is in her town and out of curiosity she goes.  This woman is not an outspoken atheist, she knows the Bible, and is a self described agnostic and this article details her internal struggle while at this convention.


 You can read it here.  (read this or I probably wont make a ton of sense to you)


First let me say this was a beautifully written article, I was fully engaged with the struggle of the author and was captivated from the first sentence through the conclusion.  And to be honest I have wrestled and struggled with this article all day and I am hoping my mind will be eased after writing my thoughts/response to this article.


Hypocritical Christians 


People in general are awful at accepting truthful criticism from opponents.  We try our best to discredit, bully, and ostracize apposing view points so harshly reaching desperately for the imaginary eraser to permanently brush away any truth that our opponents possess from our minds and the minds of those paying attention.


As I read the criticisms of christianity from the mouths of atheists in this article (there was quite a bit to choose from) some of it is spot on and we have to own that....let that settle for a moment....we have to own the fact that our actions and the actions of "professing Christians" have caused some to hate God and Jesus.


Here are a few quotes from the article that emphasize this:


"I too... hate the way Jerry Falwell blamed atheists and homosexuals for 9/11." - I agree with this statement.  On the issue of homosexuality, there will always be a tension between the homosexual community and God's Word.  However in many cases Christians have poured gasoline on this tension by posturing themselves as jerks (a stronger word is probably more fitting here).  We have not loved these people and represented Christ well at all.  This has been for some reason made the taboo sin and we need to own our shortcomings in how we have loved and treated the gay community.


"I want to deck some of the pastors I’ve seen on cable TV." - same here!  There are so many churches and famous preachers who have so far slid from the gospel that it makes me physically angry to watch MOST televangelists/preachers... Mary doesn't let me do it anymore!


Quote by the author from Ghandi "I like your Christ, but I do not like your Christians. They are not very like your Christ.”


To varying degrees all of these statements are true and instead of becoming defensive Christians need to humbly examine where in our lives we living inconsistently with the gospel and with Jesus.  The hope of the gospel is that we are sinners who have and will continue to fail but through Christ have been forgiven, been made new, and shown grace by God!  Unfortunately however,  it is not our humility, love and grace which we are known for.


Atheist Conventions and Hate Groups


As I read Briggs's description of the event she attended, I found myself confused about what was being accomplished with this convention.  What was the point of atheists gathering together to affirm their atheism?  It even seemed like their own mission statement and reason for gathering was inconsistent and confused.  Again let me explain with quotes from people at the convention


"People go to church because they have social needs. Atheists are no different. Fellowship is not a religious word; it’s a human word."


“Our battle is against religion, not believers. They are sincere people who have been brainwashed since birth,”


“There are 435 members of Congress and almost all of them are our enemies.”


  So on one hand the reason for the convention is to meet social needs, on the other hand it is to fight a battle with religion, but not religious people, and finally it is to battle religious people in congress!  All of these statements seem conflicting.  I think this is a broader issue atheism faces in the fact that it has no real endgame, there is no real reason for atheists to gather together like for example a group of Christians who meet to worship God, learn God's Word, and equip ourselves to follow Christ's call to make disciples.  The DNA of atheism will make it unfocused and inconsistent in its mission!


What struck me most interesting/disturbing is that Briggs's description of this convention made it sound eerily similar to a rally put on by a hate group.  


Some quotes to this point:


 “We affirm life,” he writes. “We are not cramped and distorted by the pathetic need to adulate"
“Religion is weak. It cannot stand on its own. The invisible man in the sky has become weaker and weaker,”
“Anger can misfire badly. When we express anger, we get angrier,” she says. “But anger is the chief reason we know something is not okay; it motivates us to do something about it.” 
“If we could take the brainpower of this room and pool it, it would be fantastic.”
"Flush out the hypocrites."
 “The rapture: You know it’s nonsense. 2000 years of any day now.” 
“That’s why we know more than they do. You need to tell your Christian friends to read the Bible. Reading the Bible makes atheists. Christian education makes atheists"


Make no mistake, this convention and this ideology is fueled and driven by genuine anger and hate towards God, The Bible, Jesus, and Christians.  This article sheds light on the reality that atheists are not as loving, gracious, open-minded, and accepting as they have marketed themselves to be.


Final Reflections


So as a young pastor I walk away from this article with a few thoughts/convictions:


1. Why the hate? - If the atheists are right and evolution is true and God/religion is a made up refuge for the weak.  Evolutionary law says we will eventually die off and take care of ourselves because we are the weaker of the species...Why the hate?  What is it accomplishing?


2.  I want to be about Jesus! - I believe that the Biblical account of Jesus is completely true and because of that he is the greatest news in human history.  I don't want to be about anything else other than my Savior.  I want to love like he loved, I want to be gracious like he was gracious, I want to be patient like he was patient, and I want to speak truth in boldness like he spoke the truth boldly!


3.  I want Harvest Spring Lake to be about Jesus! - If our church ever becomes anything other than being about loving and making much of our Savior, Jesus Christ,  than we have become unfaithful to our calling and have grieved God.  I don't want to be about conservative politics, family values, tradition, or religion, ...There is no life in any of that stuff!  Only in Christ are we given the power, grace, and motivation to live lives that glorify and please God!


4.  My heart breaks for lost people! - It's hard not to be sad when you read about people openly shaking their fists at God knowing their eternity is sealed unless God miraculously moves in their heart.  I don't ever want to be numb to that reality...as our love for Jesus grows our love, hurt, and desperation for the lost needs to be growing also.


I know that was a lot...sorry for downloading so much, but my heart was heavy and I am thankful for this outlet and hope it will have some kingdom value as well!

Free from Wrath, Free to Live Graciously

This past Sunday night at youth group we encountered the story of Cain and Abel in Genesis 4.  As I studied this passage I was blown away by how quickly sin was polluting and destroying the earth God had created and how quickly it was accelerating in the heart of man!  But even more than the devastation of sin, the story of Cain and Abel is a remarkable insight into God's fierce grace towards people who are completely undeserving.

The Crime vs. The Punishment


After having his sacrifice rejected by God, Cain fell into the depths of depression (Gen 4:5)  God lovingly approached Cain and warned him regarding the road he was traveling down internally, Cain ignored God and killed his brother Abel in a jealous rage.  This was the first murder in the history of humanity and God had a choice:  He could have given Cain the penalty that fit the crime and struck him down at that moment.  This would have set a strong precedent for anyone who would think to commit murder again knowing that God was watching and would punish murder swiftly, strongly, and completely.

But God chose grace!

God did punish Cain, making him a wanderer and an outcast, also taking away his profession by cursing him not allowing the ground to yield him food.  But when God could have justly killed, He was gracious with Cain, God spared his life, gave him a mark of protection, and modeled the patience and grace that would be later so evident in Jesus Christ.

We Find Ourselves in the Story


We, like Cain find ourselves standing guilty before God staring a punishment of death in the face.  We, like Cain are totally dependent on God's grace for forgiveness, life, and hope.  And we, like Cain have not been given what we deserve because God, through Jesus Christ has bestowed fierce, powerful, white-hot grace on us.  Through Jesus we do not face wrath but we have been graciously given life.  I Thessalonians says it best:

"For God has not destined us for wrath, but to obtain salvation through our Lord Jesus Christ"


The story of the gospel is that we are Cain!  And God has been abundantly gracious to us by allowing His own son to bear the penalty of our sin, making us clean, forgiven, and redeemed!


The 2 Million Dollar Question


What is your response to God's grace?  Have you responded to God's grace?  Is this a truth that merely lives in your head or is it a motivating, life giving reality that is the lens on which you view life?


Grace-given people are Grace-driven people!


The grace we have been given in Christ is the single greatest thing to happen to anyone at any point in human history!  This is not something that was given so we could take advantage of it, hide it, or store it away, but God's grace needs to motivate us to be the most gracious people we possibly can be.


The gospel frees us from having to be the star of our own lives, so when we are sinned against, hurt, or taken advantaged of, we have the freedom forgive and magnify God's grace towards us by our love and kindness towards others.  We don't have to get even, we don't have to defend ourselves, we don't have to  hold grudges, but we are free to live in a way that magnifies the grace of our savior and to embrace the joy and freedom found in him.  


The gospel does not deliver us from hurt or pain caused by others, but it does free from holding onto that hurt and pain.  So often we remove joy from our lives when we are consumed by what others have done to us when it can never compare to what Jesus has done for us!

Free from Perfectionism, Free to Live with Confidence

Perfectionism devastates.  I believe that perfectionism is one of the silent sins that wages war on people and destroys and yet perfectionism is rarely ever talked about or discussed.  Perfectionism attacks every kind of person and there isn't an area in life that can be protected from the desire to appear perfect.  From physical appearance, to GPA, to Athletics, to your family, to video games, music, hobbies, children, your home, cooking, career, ect.  Every aspect of life is susceptible to the sin of perfectionism.

The scary thing is that often times we don't see perfectionism as harmful or wrong but we even celebrate it in our own lives, we mask it with "i just really want to do my best", "I can be better", "Why do anything half-hearted".  We believe that perfectionism is a private issue with how we view ourselves, when really the issue is that we don't want to appear as less than perfect to others.  Perfectionism is a sin of wanting to be perceived perfectly by others, not a private issue that is isolated to ourselves.

Perfectionism sucks the joy out of your life and drives you to despair.  When I was a sophomore in college I bought the newest FIFA soccer video game...and I was good...really good.  I found that I could beat anyone at it and I wanted to be ranked highly in the game worldwide.  So I played and played and played to the point where I was in the top 10 in the US and top 50 in the world.  I wanted to be number 1 so bad!  And what happened was it sucked all my free time away, when I wasn't playing I was thinking about the ground I was losing, I became furious when I lost, and it sucked all of the joy out of the game.  One afternoon I simply threw the game away because I hated it and I hated myself from getting trapped by it.

The gospel frees us from perfectionism!  The gospel says that we are sinners (Romans 3:23), we all have blemishes, we cannot achieve perfection on our own!  Perfectionism says "you can be God" the gospel says "you need a savior!"

The awesome part is that we do have a savior his name is Jesus and he is our perfection.  Jesus was perfect (2 Cor 5:21) and because of what he did on the cross we are made perfect in God's eyes!  Even more, the Bible says that through our weakness Christ is made strong in us (2 Cor 12:9).

Here is the good news, we don't have to be perfect and when we fail, fall short, and disappoint we can glorify in our savior who is our perfection and is working through us.  This allows us to live boldly and take risks because at the end of the day its not about us and how others perceive us, it is about Jesus!

The gospel frees us from perfectionism and allows us to live with boldness and confidence resting in what Jesus has already accomplished on our behalf!

Free From Guilt....Free To Begin Again (Part 1)

One of the greatest deterrents from us embracing the gospel and having victory in our lives is guilt!  

Dave Hulings, the head coach at WMC (where I assistant coach) blew my mind yesterday when he made this statement:  "Satan always gives me 2 lies, the first is that God doesn't care about my sin, and the second is that God hates sin so much that he would never want me back."

So often we find ourselves trapped in believing the second lie.  Satan loves to remind us of our failures, our sin, and our inability to measure up to God's holiness.  Satan whispers in our ear "how could God love you?  You are dirty and weak and don't deserve God's love"  This guilt that we carry usually leads to 2 courses of action, neither good options...

1.  Our guilt causes us to despair in our condition and drive us further into sin.  We hate ourselves, become depressed, believe that we are not loved or sought after, which causes us to plunge deeper and deeper into the sin we hate!  I have had multiple young men so depressed by their sin that it has caused them to contemplate suicide.  This is what Satan wants, to destroy us!

2.  We try to merit back God's favor.  We believe if we clean up enough on the outside we can fool God into thinking we are clean.  This attitude breeds legalism, we love rules that we can follow to "prove our worth" and we also love reveling in others failures to shift the focus off of ourselves.  We become unloving, harsh, bitter, and miserable as we seek to earn God's love and approval through deeds, masking a spiritual hopelessness we feel.

What Does The Gospel Say About This?

The gospel says that we are absolutely sinners and that there is no way we can measure up to God's holiness (Rom 3:23).  But here is the awesome news: Christ has measured up for us! (2 Cor 5:21, Jn 3:16)  And what's so amazing is that through what Jesus has done for us on the cross, we actually receive Christ's righteousness and are made PERFECTLY CLEAN in the eyes of God! (2 Cor. 5:21)  

On the cross Jesus paid the full penalty of our sin and we have been purchased by Jesus no longer under the authority of sin and guilt.  The sin we commit today, tomorrow, next week does grieve God, hurt relationships, and harms our testimony, but it can never separate us from God's Love! (Rom. 8:39)  If it could, than Christ wasn't victorious.  Satan wants you to believe sin and death won the day but we know that on the 3rd day Jesus rose victorious!

Finally, the gospel says we have been made new and clean in Jesus! (2 Cor. 5:17) Our sin is gone, we have no need to feel guilt, but we are free from this point forward to embrace the forgiveness found in Christ and move forward serving, loving, and walking with him!  That is the hope of the gospel that Jesus completely removes our guilt and allows to continually begin again!